What Do You Mean-The Suffering?
Key elements of spiritual awakening through most traditional paths are the practice of non-violence, forgiveness, and compassion; this necessarily includes learning to deal with anger and hatred by purifying ourselves and rooting out anger from our hearts and minds. One of the principle tenets of Buddhism, as of all deep spirituality, is non-violence, non-harming -- and even more radically, to be helpful and altruistic, if you can. But I don’t want to ask too much on the first attempt! At least let’s start with non-violence, non-harming, and living lightly on this planet rather than destroying it and ourselves. That’s the minimum, I think. And this is a practice, not just an ideal; these virtuous principles not just something the Dalai Lama or Mahatma Gandhi and Albert Schweitzer, Mother Teresa, Jesus and Buddha could do, but something we can practice in our own lives, in countless ways great and small. We all care about, and perhaps even work for, peace in the world and in our communities and homes, and for inner peace, too, in ourselves and our relations with others. But the war, violence, and aggression we struggle with on so many levels all come from the anger, hatred, greed and ignorance in our own minds. That is the root, and the only root, of these evils.

Where Deos It Comes From?
Anger has been singled out as one of the most destructive of the kleshas, because of how easily it degenerates into aggression and violence.
But anger is easily misunderstood. It is often misunderstood , causing us to suppress it and make ourselves more ill, uneasy and offbalance. I think it's time to think about this. Psychotherapy can be helpful as well.

What To Do?
In the moment of anger’s arising in our body-mind complex, at first there is just an energy, a feeling, the merest glimmer of an experience; it has not yet devolved into violence and aggression. We can learn to deal with it, through mindful awareness coupled with patience, self-observation and introspection. Afflictive, destructive or negative emotions can be skillfully antidoted by cultivating positive emotions, such as patience, compassion, lovingkindness and so forth. As a specific antidote to anger when it surges up in you, try cultivating patience, loving kindness and forbearance. When feeling hatred, cultivate forgiveness and equanimity, trying to empathize with the other and see where they are coming from: see things through their eyes for a moment, if you can. If moved towards aggression, try to breathe, relax, quiet and calm the agitated mind and strive for restraint and moderation, remembering that others are just like yourself in wanting and needing happiness and avoiding pain, harm and suffering . Regarding violence and rage, the ultimate external extreme of the internal emotion of anger, redirection and psychological reconditioning are absolutely necessary.

And More...
When we look at anger closely, and search for clues on dealing with it, we find a whole spectrum out there: anger itself, and then all the things it can degenerate into. There’s a difference between anger, hatred, aggression, violence, and rage. Let’s consider the first band of the spectrum, anger itself. The way to deal with anger is, from the beginning, to take the longer view. When we feel anger arising in ourselves, or when we are subjected to the anger of others, we take the longer view.

Where To Ask For Help?
There are many meditation centers, retreats, workshops and classes in our country, as well as elsewhere. You can find them by word of mouth; on the bulletin boards of health food stores, spiritual bookshops and college campuses; in the Yellow Pages (though not necessarily the best way to find the best in this field); through religion forums and bulletin boards on the Internet.
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